Suck ‘N Spit on Weeds: Yes, They Really Relieved Breast Engorgement Like THAT

Watching the television show Weeds last night, I admit my interest in whether Nancy was breastfeeding her new baby bordered on obsessive.  In the last episode, I caught what looked like Nancy applying lanolin to her nipples. But still, two episodes into a new baby on the show and she still hadn’t made any direct mention of how this child was being fed. It bugged me.

But from early on in last night’s episode, there were references to breast milk – mostly references to pumping and where the bottles of breast milk could be found, but I was satisfied.  Honestly, at this point I could case less whether Andy is a good father or if she marries Esteban. I managed to get through the circumcision scene in the previous episode only because the rabbi’s response to the question, “How do you practice to do this [circumcision]?” was “on goyim.”  Sorry.  I’m Jewish. It was funny. If you are offended by the term “goyim,” my apologies. Footnote here: I didn’t circumcise my sons and think the practice is barbaric so I was working pretty hard at finding humor in the scene.

Back to last night’s episode: Suck ‘N Spit.  I should have seen it coming in the title.  Nancy is out to dinner with Andy (her brother-in-law for those of you who don’t know the show) and becomes painfully engorged. You can literally see it. Watching her discomfort, her squirming and gently pressing her breasts – well, if you’ve been there, you know. She gives up on waiting till she gets back home and heads for the ladies room where she pulls what looks like a battery operated breast pump from her purse, leans over the sink, and starts to pump. But the pump kicks out – seems the batteries die.  At this point I am on the edge of my seat. I know she has to empty those breasts.

It probably seems marginally disturbed to be so drawn in by a plot line about engorged breasts. I just don’t see my life on television very often. Having spent nearly nine years lactating, the fill-full-empty-fill-full-empty arc of breast milk production is so familiar that I can read it in the way a woman moves, sits, breathes. Being aware of how much milk I had, how near full I was, how soon I needed to empty, was part of my every day for a significant chunk of my adult life.

When Nancy leans over the bathroom sink having tossed her dead breast pump, I thought she was going to hand express. She obviously wasn’t walking out of that ladies room without relieving the pressure. Then she hollers for Andy and I squealed so loud my kids jumped. I immediately knew what she was going to do.

I never asked my kids’ father to suck breast milk from my breasts – something of which I reminded him as we watched Nancy beg Andy to “suck ‘n spit.”  But I totally would have. And he damn well better have done it.

This morning I searched the Internet for a clip of the scene to post here.  Until one goes up, you are just going to have to trust me that Andy relieving Nancy’s engorged breasts was not at all sexual. People with experience breastfeeding are probably going to wonder, perhaps aloud, why she didn’t just hand express.  As someone who could never get a drop out that way, I get the need for suction. And Andy’s character on Weeds kind of annoys me much of the time so I loved that he pretty much just got to business doing what needed to be done.

But I suspect there is going to be a fair bit of Internet chatter about that scene. There are people who are going to write about it being disgusting or sexual or inapprorpiate. That he swallowed the breast milk instead of spitting it out will be an issue. And my response? Grow up!  This was real.  This was human. This was as it should be. Women who have babies lactate.  Their breasts fill with milk.  If the milk is not removed, their breasts will become engorged (too full) and the pressure will need to be relieved by removing some milk.  If there is no hungry baby around to do it, the milk will need to be removed some other way.  There it is. Thank you Weeds for putting it on television.

43 comments

  • Erin August 4th, 2009 at 9:53 am · Reply Okay, I have to admit that it made me feel a little queasy to watch it. It was funny, though.What I was more disturbed by is that Nancy didn’t just take that baby to bed, dammit! Funny, my husband was looking at me like I was insane all the comments I was making about not being able to handle listening to that baby on the show cry and how I couldn’t believe she was making Andy bottlefeed when he could just bring the baby to her. LOL Yes, I even get on my soapbox when watching Weeds, which is one of my favorite shows.I know that I said more than once that I didn’t understand why she was pumping. Then she made reference to nursing every 3-4 hours like it was grueling and I was like OMG…how realistic-not. The REAL victim, though, was my husband who had to listen to my rantings.
  • Jake
    Twitter: Jakearyehmarcus
    August 4th, 2009 at 10:07 am · Reply I was annoyed too by all the pumping when everything would have been much easier if she had just nursed. Also I didn’t get why her first move upon coming home from the hospital was to hire a nanny when she has no reason to be away from the baby. I am trying to write it off as a plot necessity so the baby isn’t in too many scenes but it bugs me. It also strains credibility since she has no income. You definitely have to suspend disbelief for most of the series. While Weeds started as a humorous though pointed critique of upper class life, that is pretty much gone and you have to take the giggles where you can now.
  • Elita
    Twitter: blacktating
    August 4th, 2009 at 11:47 am · Reply Well, I don’t watch the show, but my husband never was able to get milk out of my breasts. He tried once. Even during sex, I never leaked. I have only ever let down for my own child, not screaming babies in the mall, not babies on TV, not the pump. Maybe I am the exception here.
  • Sara August 4th, 2009 at 12:52 pm · Reply My take on this:
    http://www.honestbaby.com/content/blog/unrealistic-breast-sucking-on-weeds/
  • Jake
    Twitter: Jakearyehmarcus
    August 4th, 2009 at 4:36 pm · Reply @Elita I leaked like mad after giving birth to my first but rarely with my other two. I actually still do get the feeling of let down – that very distinctive contracting (sort of) in my breasts – and my youngest weaned almost seven years ago. The sound of any child crying has been a trigger from the start.For both @Sara and @Elita, I never got a drop hand expressing but I was always able to pump buckets. Literally, I could pump 8 oz in under ten minutes.Interesting @Sara that your response is so strong. I might have thought it was unrealistic if I hadn’t had a few friends who told me they had had their mates suck milk out when pumps didn’t work and they had oversupply issues. Since I had never had trouble with pumps, I was surprised to learn how many women can’t get milk out with them (like @Elita). Also battery operated and hand pumps were useless for me. So if I needed to relieve engorgement and couldn’t pump or have my baby, I wouldn’t have hesitated to have my mate suck it out.That it was done by someone she loves and trusts was the part that spoke to the non-sexual nature of it to me. In the show, Andy (despite being an immature screw-up) is the one who hangs with her.In real life (which the show most definitely isn’t) I have many of the same problems with her behavior you do. “Go home and put your baby to the breast.” was my thought as well. Also her remark about being able to drink since having the baby when she couldn’t while pregnant showed ignorance of the relative dangers of a drink or two while pregnant and a drink or two while breastfeeding.But I don’t have a problem with someone other than my baby getting milk from my breast. I really hope at some point the show actually shows that baby on the breast though. So far it looks as though breastfeeding is an entirely remote operation.
    .-= Jake´s last blog ..Suck ‘N Spit on Weeds: Yes, They Really Relieved Breast Engorgement Like THAT =-.
  • Nicole August 4th, 2009 at 5:16 pm · Reply Wow, I can’t believe we missed this episode last night! I will not tell my husband about this, he’ll think it’s hysterical. He’s already heard me complain about the bottles, and why they were necessary. Mary-Louise Parker did breastfeed her son, and even attributed her cleavage to her nursing baby while getting her Golden Globe. I’m with you on thinking there may be a plot device for why she’s not nursing and the nanny is there…perhaps also a way to get the nanny back on the show?
  • Jake
    Twitter: Jakearyehmarcus
    August 4th, 2009 at 6:09 pm · Reply I remember Parker’s acceptance speech thanking her son for her big boobs. It was hilarious!I missed Lupita so I am forgiving Nancy for hiring her back. ;)
  • Nicole August 5th, 2009 at 12:33 am · Reply I just watched it. It bothered me more that she didn’t ever seem to be nursing the baby. I guess it isn’t really in Nancy’s character to have a baby with her all of the time, in a sling, constantly nursing. It is a show that will go for the shock value (Andy relieving engorgement) rather than showing day-to-day baby care. It is weird to hear such complaining about having to nurse a 2-week-old baby, every 3-4 hours. (What newborn nurses that infrequently? And she has a nanny!) Nancy can talk to me when he’s 4, and is planning a party for when he’s 5–the time when he supposedly plans to stop nursing. ;)As for Andy relieving the engorgement…it didn’t seem sexual in that there was nothing between them (at that moment). (Though, later Andy does compare his need for sexual release to her need for release from engorgement.) But, trust Weeds to come up with a situation where there’s no other option–that’s how all of Nancy’s situations seem to be.
  • Alice August 5th, 2009 at 3:19 pm · Reply Yeah, this was completely unrealistic. As a woman that has breastfed two children and COMPLETELY understands the discomfort and pain that surrounds engorgement (I had to have a nurse from my local hospital bring me an industrial pump) but I have never asked anyone to suck it out for me. I also know no other women that have ever done this, or would, and with so many options there’s no reason to do this outside of for the sake of a plot. I told my husband while watching the show that this plotline HAD to be written by the same men that fantasize about what pre-teen girls do to each other at slumber parties. Jake, with all due respect, your “friends” are either lying, nonexistent, or at the very least are in a severe minority. Your response reminded me of the people that are quick to follow up some offensive remark with “some of my best friends are gay/black”. “Some of my best friends have had their husbands suck their breast milk for them.” Really?
  • Jake
    Twitter: Jakearyehmarcus
    August 5th, 2009 at 3:34 pm · Reply Well, @Alice, I swear I am not making up people who have done this. That would be weird and unnecessary. I am startled and offended that you would equate my remarks with racist ones. For the record, starting a statement “with all due respect” does not make it any less disrespectful. You have accused me of lying, which is disrespectful no matter how you preface it.One of the reasons I blogged this episode is that I anticipated that it (the episode, not necessarily the blog) would be controversial. I have no question that there are people who are into the scene for sexual reasons. I got a lovely stream of spam from porn sites just as I do when I Tweet about breasts. More a sad statement about our culture than about anything else. I once had a man sit on a bench across from me when I was breastfeeding my son in a park and begin to masturbate. That didn’t make my breastfeeding sexual in general – it meant that he had some mental health issues.Perhaps some people who have either had an adult suck breast milk from their breasts, or who have worked with women who have, will post comments. I assure you I did not invent them. I admit until the first time I heard of someone doing this, it had never occurred to me.
  • Morgan GallagherAugust 5th, 2009 at 3:54 pm · Reply Well, I had my husband help out with a plugged duct, to see if he could suck it down.I didn’t like trying it, as it crossed wires in my head! But I was in pain, and I wanted to be out of pain. It didn’t help. He did suck, and sucking is so not what a baby does. It hurt. but it was worth a try.We don’t do ‘milk play’ as I’m totally not comfortable with sexual and lactation mixing. But having a husband help with a plugged duct? Totally. It’s like because saying my hand might also at one time touch his penis, I’d not let him pull a splinter out of my finger..
  • Erin August 5th, 2009 at 4:56 pm · Reply Yeah. Pretty much any statement that starts with “no offense” or “with all due respect” or “I hope you don’t mind me saying this, but…” ends with something really offensive, stupid or disrespectful. With all due respect, Alice.Why would you say that she’s lying or her friends are lying or that they’re imaginary? Just because you have never seen it doesn’t mean it’s never happened. Gosh. There are BILLIONS of people all over the world that believe in something they have no proof happened. All day. Every day. Are they lying?
  • Jake
    Twitter: Jakearyehmarcus
    August 5th, 2009 at 5:16 pm · Reply Thank you @Morgan!And thank you @Erin, though I try not to mix breastfeeding and religion. ;)
  • Erin August 5th, 2009 at 5:32 pm · Reply Well who said I was referencing religion? There are lots of beliefs people have without direct knowledge of proof.
  • Jake
    Twitter: Jakearyehmarcus
    August 5th, 2009 at 5:43 pm · Reply @Erin, I was just ribbing you. ;) I actually am talking about real people but without people like @Morgan saying “I did this” people like @Alice will think I just made them up.Honestly, if I hadn’t heard about mates doing this before seeing the Weeds scene it wouldn’t have occurred to me to do. But I certainly believed the first person who told me she had her mate do it (and that was back in the mid ’90s). It made perfect sense. And I believe @Morgan because I then heard others say they did the same thing. I think it is generally something people don’t talk about. Now I am on the hunt for an LC to write that she advises couples to do this.
  • Jake
    Twitter: Jakearyehmarcus
    August 5th, 2009 at 5:44 pm · Reply Oh, and I know @Morgan so I know she is real. ;)
  • SarahAugust 5th, 2009 at 7:22 pm · Reply I have been in this situation and had massive engorgment and a plugged duct relieved for me by hubby, my daughter had tongue tie and wasn’t able to get a good latch and the suction needed, which was why I was in that situation to begin with. Thank god he did, cause I sucked (no pun intended) at manual expression and didn’t have a breast pump. And yeah, it was the furthest thing from sexy. Shiny swollen, painful boobs with a fever starting and mastitus on the horizon. Mad sexy right? right?
  • Jake
    Twitter: Jakearyehmarcus
    August 5th, 2009 at 7:28 pm · ReplyAnother actual person whose done this. Time to come out of the … what? My post was “been there, would definitely do that.” Great to hear from “been there, done that.”
  • Serena August 5th, 2009 at 7:30 pm · Reply I feel a little shy about this, But I’ve done that. I remember it was in the first few days, and I was in this haze of sleeplessness and engorgement. I was producing such a massive amount of milk, and had gone up from a prepregnant 34A to PP 42DD. My baby was small, and sleepy from jaundice, my breasts were ready to feed 11 pound twins. I was struggling to reduce my supply, block feeding every 6 hours. i asked my husband to help. He did, but he couldn’t suck hard enough and we laughed at that. A baby is really made for breastfeeding.
  • TheFeministBreeder
    Twitter: feministbreeder
    August 5th, 2009 at 10:55 pm · Reply I don’t watch Weeds, so I missed all that. I would have been equally as annoyed by seeing a new baby on the show, and not knowing whether she was nursing or not. For some reason, I get so ticked when TV shows/movies/whathaveyou make no reference to breastfeeding. It bugs me.BUT, I just have to say (and you know what a lactivist I am) – just ick, ick, ick, ick, ick… a thousand times ick. Not in a million, gillion years would I ask my husband to suck out breastmilk. I wouldn’t even let him touch my breasts when I was in the highest phase of production. I’ve been engorged to the point of excruciating pain – I’ve had plugged ducts and mastitis, you name it. And my husband is the type of person who’d do anything in the world if I asked him, but No. Freaking. Way. Not in this lifetime. I’ve never even tasted my own breastmilk (just cannot bring myself to do it… nope, I’d throw up.) To me, the milk is for my baby and my baby only.*blerg* eeeewww… It may take me a couple of days to scrub the mental images out of my brain now. Thanks Jake! ;)
    .-= TheFeministBreeder´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday =-.
  • TheFeministBreeder
    Twitter: feministbreeder
    August 5th, 2009 at 11:02 pm · Reply I should also mention that I just told my husband about this blog, and he just said he’d totally do that for me if it ever needed to be done – which makes me wonder if I accidentally slipped acid into his chicken tonight. Not in a gabillion years darlin’! But I guess(???) it’s nice for him to offer.Oh.. uck.. wait, here comes the pukey feeling again.
    .-= TheFeministBreeder´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday =-.
  • Morgan Gallagher August 6th, 2009 at 1:52 am · Reply I’ve been thinking about this, and you know, it’s discussed pretty regularly in the support forums. I remember it, as I’m the one posting with “Well, you can try it, but be careful as sucking isn’t suckling, and it can hurt.” In fact, when I read your blog Jake, my thought on how unrealistic it was, wasn’t that she did try it, but was that it wouldn’t likely have worked. If you understand how milk is extracted from the breast, you know that an adult mouth isn’t going to know what to do. There’s a reason babies come hard wired to suckle – it’s a huge and complex skill.But what was realistic, is that she’d never been taught to hand express. Far more useful than an adult mouth. Also, this is the area where people really appreciate having an older child around. Many a toddler made a new Mummy very happy on new milk engorgement!In other areas… I hesitate to point out that the other excellent tip on breaking down a plugged duct is to use an electrically vibrating device. Jack Newman refers to it as an old electric toothbrush, but the electric vibrating device most women have on hand isn’t a toothbrush.And yes, it works. :-)
  • Morgan Gallagher August 6th, 2009 at 2:05 am · Reply psHubby just wandered past, and I was asking him if he wanted to post. He declined, as he felt that discovering he didn’t have a good latch was not that empowering… ;-)
  • sarah August 6th, 2009 at 7:37 am · Reply Just for the record in my case my hubby WAS able to relieve the plugged duct!
  • Sarah August 6th, 2009 at 12:41 pm · Reply I wish I’d known about that method of relieving engorgement when my baby was in the NICU and the pumps didn’t help at all. It would have been far better than the rough, vice-grip manual expression the nurse tried without success, better than the ineffective pumps, and better than watching my milk supply dwindle. Why do people feel that lactating breasts desexualize a woman or, worse, become tainted with some sort of sexual perversion. They’re just breasts, and it’s just milk. Why all the fuss?
    .-= Sarah´s last blog ..World Breastfeeding Week =-.
  • GRA August 6th, 2009 at 2:29 pm · Reply I’ve done this, both to relieve engorgement (I had a wicked case of oversupply for the first few weeks, I could pump 10 ounces in ten minutes out of each breast, WITH A HANDPUMP), to deal with clogged ducts, and also just for fun. Now that my baby is 18 months and some days is too busy to nurse, it’s easier to just get my husband to do it than deal with setting up my pump.
  • G!rl August 6th, 2009 at 3:24 pm · Reply I’ve had my husband help with a plugged duct too. I was in absolute pain, the baby wasn’t able to clear it no matter what I did. He was able to, once we worked out that it’s not sucking, it’s a type of rippling massage. Man, that sounds weird, but the baby kinda moves the milk along the aerola into the nipple, then sucks it out. Once we got into a pattern, it worked, and thankfully I didn’t get mastitis.I’ve been dying to try this show, and thanks to you, now I have an impetus. :-D
  • Carla August 6th, 2009 at 3:26 pm · Reply While I’ve never had to have milk removed in such a way to relieve engorgement, I totally would. His mouth gets plenty out during intimate moments though. I’m just sayin’. It’s not impossible for an adult to get the milk out.
  • Kristin August 6th, 2009 at 3:50 pm · Reply @femininstbreeder–your comments lead me to believe that there is very little “feminist” in you. Talk about internalized misogyny!Your milk is not disgusting, it’s simply human milk. Unless you are a strict vegan, you consume other animal products. Why is the one that comes from you gross? It’s hardly feminist to think that even the concept of an adult drinking human milk is beyond the pale.
  • Kelly August 6th, 2009 at 3:54 pm · Reply I had many a plugged duct in the beginning (my daughter is now 11 months old, nursing still but not nearly with the frequency as a newborn-6 or 7 month old). I’m crap at trying to get plugged ducts clear, but my husband is pretty good at it!He watched that episode last night, and yelled from the bathtub: “SHE’S USING A MANUAL PUMP, NOT A BATTERY OPERATED ONE!!!!!!!” I had to laugh ;)
  • Milkmaid August 6th, 2009 at 4:54 pm · Reply My husband has taken care of my engorgement(and a plugged duct, once) so many times I think he’s starting to get a kick out of it, onoz. Like a lot of men are wont to do, he found me irresistible when I was pregnant, and fell in love with my body all over again postpartum. My boobs were still the boobs he loves, even five times their normal sized and steadily dripping. Just like the stretch marks I got, easy to overlook.And being lactose intolerant, my own milk doesn’t send him to the toilet for forty-five minutes like cow’s milk does. He made chocolate milk with it once, didn’t taste any different from regular milk, lol.
  • ladykay August 6th, 2009 at 7:15 pm · Reply My nursing days are long past as my youngest is 22 years old, but, yes, my husband helped me out on occasion. It was absolutely not a sexy thing for me, you don’t feel particularly sexy when your breasts are overly full. My hubby loved breastmilk and he would swallow, but a friend commented to me that when her husband did it he would spit it out.I can also remember someone else suggesting, when I was very engorged after my daughter was born and we were discussing ways to relieve it that I could always “do husband.” So, it’s certainly not an unheard of thing.BTW, I remember my grandmother (who was born in 1901) telling me that when she was young if a mother had too much milk, she would “get a puppy.”
  • Beth August 6th, 2009 at 7:24 pm · Reply Add my voice to the chorus of ladies who’ve done this for a plugged duct. It didn’t help, in my case, and like Morgan it was crossed wires just trying. But he didn’t mind it. :)
  • Monique August 7th, 2009 at 7:07 am · Reply This is an astonishing conversation! I’d never have thought of using my hubby – I had good luck with both manual pumps and electric pumps – but totally understand the need to get that extra milk out! Having said that, I nursed two babies and my husband was always totally supportive as well as completely happy with my breastfeeding. If I’d needed him to do this, I’m sure he would have – without confusing it with anything sexual. I am a great supporter of breastfeeding and often remind women about the virtues of pretty nursing bras so they can be both mama and lover – after all, why not?
  • Jake
    Twitter: Jakearyehmarcus
    August 7th, 2009 at 7:23 am · ReplyDraw those fangs in @Kristin! @FeministBreeder didn’t condemn anyone for drinking their own breast milk. She personally is repelled by it. I don’t see where feminism comes into this or how not wanting to drink breast milk (or have your mate drink yours) makes you any less a feminist.Your comment reminds me of a Wendy Wasserstein play from the ’70s in which young feminists at a seven sisters school are discussing what they considered a rite of passage for young feminists: tasting their menstrual blood. It is ridiculous to say the willingness to do act X entirely defines whether you can be a feminist is … well …not feminist. I never tasted by own breast milk. The color was off-putting to me and I dislike any animal milk. It was a sensory issue, not a feminist one.
    .-= Jake´s last blog ..Suck ‘N Spit on Weeds: Yes, They Really Relieved Breast Engorgement Like THAT =-.
  • TheFeministBreeder
    Twitter: feministbreeder
    August 7th, 2009 at 10:44 am · Reply Thanks Jake, I appreciate the help.I acknowledge that it is very strange that I won’t taste my own breastmilk – and I have never, and would never, shame another mother for doing so (I’m actually pretty impressed – same way I feel about people who dive with sharks, no way I’d do it, but more power to you!)I also don’t understand why being a feminist means I’m required to act exactly the way any other woman would act. My own personal feelings (call them hangups if you like) is that my breastmilk is not for my (or my husband’s) consumption.In fact, when DH asked me what I’d do if I ever found myself in this situation, and refused his help with it, I told him I’d head to the nearest hospital. They all have breastpumps. That’s how far I’d go to avoid my husband’s mouth touching my baby’s breastmilk. Would I expect other mothers to do the same thing? Absolutely not. Do what works for you.
    .-= TheFeministBreeder´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday =-.
  • Karen August 7th, 2009 at 8:21 pm · Reply I don’t watch Weeds, but what an intriguing conversation. I think my husband would attempt something like this if I could explain the necessity, but do think it would freak him out a bit. I don’t think there’d be any confusion that this is not sexual, as he was always uncomfortable with any leaking. Supportive of breastfeeding, but the leaking could make sex take a nosedive.Just to touch on @FeministBreeder’s comment (but not to purposely make you nauseous). I’ve done some business traveling while nursing, but pumping away on business only for relief, since there was lots at home (and baby was 18+ mos old). I hate the idea of dumping something so precious and always tend to get sick when I travel on planes. I pretty much always drink most of what I express with a pump. It’s kind of sweet. It doesn’t taste like cow milk at all (from what I remember) and of course it was warm.I really enjoyed your thoughts and all the comments.
    .-= Karen´s last blog ..Walking the Tightrope =-.
  • Melodie August 14th, 2009 at 10:15 pm · Reply I don’t watch Weeds but I am so impressed something like this happened on mainstream television! And I heard it here first! I just had to express my shared joy.
    .-= Melodie´s last blog ..Foodie Fridays: Wild Blackberry Coffee Cake =-.
  • ann October 12th, 2009 at 5:11 pm · Reply my hubby milked me
  • kim October 30th, 2009 at 1:48 am · Reply I will try this with hubby tonight
    as I am having problems right now
    thanks to you all
  • Chris November 19th, 2010 at 4:17 am · Reply I will chime in from the male point of view. After three kids, I can totally recommend that husbands breastfeed to help out their wives. Hand-expressing and pumping have their place, but sometimes nothing works quite like the combination of mild suction and rolling tongue pressure to relieve engorgement or plugged ducts. I understand why some people may shy away from doing this at first – as others have mentioned – “crossed wires” between sexuality and nurturing, or perhaps even a general aversion to body fluids, etc. However, watching the extreme pain that my wife was in with massively engorged breast tissue directly after the birth of each child left me with no choice but to help out. Usually all that needs to be done is to drain just enough milk to soften the breast to the point where the child can take over. The allows the child to get a deep latch, preventing nipple blistering – and it may also prevent more serious problems like mastitis by relieving plugged ducts – not to mention reducing overall pain and pressure. There are also those times when the child is sleeping or not around yet the mom still needs some release to stay ‘on schedule’. The taste is watery and sweet at first, transitioning to more creamy after a couple of minutes. It tastes like warm half-and-half and I actually like the flavor quite a bit. The experience is mostly pragmatic, though it is also intimate and enjoyable for a couple. The mom wins, the dad wins, and the child wins.
  • lumina January 31st, 2011 at 4:56 pm · Reply My youngest is 16 years old and reading these comments have made my breasts ache simply from memory!My worst day was when some friends and I decided to go to Seattle for the day. I was travelling an hour and a half from my 4 month old son so I pumped enough milk to leave for my mother to feed him, packed my hand pump in my purse, and went off to enjoy my first foray without a child in tow.While in Pike Place Market my breasts became so uncomfortably engorged I thought I would cry. I tried to go to several public restrooms to pump but they were all full of women doing their “thing” (furthermore, it was a busy day at the market and there were LINES for the bathrooms!) or they were all just so nasty dirty that I couldn’t seem to relax enough to achieve let-down. I kept trying for two hours to no avail.Finally, a friend of mine who HAD brought her 10 month old daughter with her on the trip, came up with a good idea. She too breastfed so she offered me her child. I was stunned. It DID have that “cross-wired” feeling to it, but not due to sexuality. It was simply not MY child. At first her daughter fussed at me. Mine was not the breast she was looking for. But eventually she latched on and I had two immediate reactions:
    1. OMG what a RELIEF!!!!
    2. OMG she has TEETH!!!LOL!It all ended well and I learned my lesson. I never let my son go from my side for more than 30-40 minutes at a time until our breastfeeding days were over.
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    • Jake
      Twitter: Jakearyehmarcus
      January 31st, 2011 at 7:22 pm · Reply Lol Lumina! What a great story! I think the feeling of extreme engorgement is one that stays with you always. And the relief of being emptied. Ahhhh. :)